LEARNING GUIDE
Ask for the sexual healthcare you need.
Sexual health appointments are a place to ask about your own circumstances. You can prepare questions and request the communication and access support that helps you take part.
IN THIS GUIDE
Write down your main question
You do not need medical language to start. “Sex has started hurting”, “I want to talk about contraception”, or “I have questions about sensation” gives the clinician a starting point. Note when a symptom began, whether anything changed, and what you most want answered. If there are several questions, put the most important one first.
Ask about access before the appointment
Contact the service to discuss entry, toilets, appointment length, communication support, an interpreter, or examination equipment. Ask what can be arranged rather than assuming a particular service has it available. You can also ask whether a phone or video conversation is appropriate for the first discussion.
Choose the support you want
A support person can help with communication or remembering information if you want them there. Tell the clinician how you want them involved and whether you would like time to speak privately. Ask staff to address you directly and allow enough time for your answers. Using an AAC device does not mean someone else should answer on your behalf.
Understand before agreeing
Ask what an examination, test, or treatment involves, what the alternatives are, and what happens next. You can ask for a plain-language explanation, written information, or a pause. If a proposed position or procedure is difficult, explain the issue and ask what adjustments are possible.
Bring up medication and symptoms
Tell the clinician about prescribed medicines, other products you use, pain, bleeding, discharge, or changes in sensation or sexual function. These can have different causes and deserve individual assessment. Do not stop or change medicines without speaking with the prescriber. Severe pain, fainting, heavy bleeding, or other acute symptoms need urgent medical help rather than waiting for a routine appointment.
Leave with a next step
Before finishing, ask: “What happens now?”, “How will I get results?”, and “Who do I contact if things change?” Write down the answer or request a summary. Sexual Wellbeing Aotearoa provides information about sexual health services and clinic contact options; availability and access arrangements should be checked directly with the service.
Take it with you
Bring your main question, describe the support you need, and ask for a clear next step before the appointment ends.
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